I used to follow out my "passions", as well. In fact I even got into some dark stuff. Obviously Im not going to go into detail over it, but at one point I ended up realizing what kind of person I was becoming, and I didnt feel happy. I made some bad choices that I regret due these things, too. I decided that I was just going to stop thinking of and doing these things entirely, and ever since that decision I have done just that : p
I know its a popular teaching these days, to teach that self restraint is harmful because of stress and all that other junk. And yeah sure, while it can be occasionally frustrating at times, its just absolutely silly to believe that its really a harmful and dangerous thing to just say no : p I have found myself still feeling over all the same, and my life has not really changed all that much at all from when I used to follow these things willfully : p And a little frustration is not that big a deal, the stress and frustration I deal with at work is much higher than when I deal with any physical urges, I can guarantee that : p
I feel the same urges as anyone else, its no easier for me than it is others. And I like to avoid any kind of content or images or writing thaat can lead me to thoughts that I choose to not follow out. And Ive noticed that the longer you do it,, the easier it becomes.
Of course Im not advocating forcing anyone to the lifestyle that I have chosen, but for anyone who would try to claim that my lifestyle is somehow harmful or wrong, I like to point out how silly of an idea that is : p