Personally I try to be tactful and truthful at the same time. I usually don't change how I speak to people unless it's an absolute last resort to get my point across. It's worked for me on the sites I've had better relations with but I got trampled on with those video game forums I tried joining. I think it also has to deal with the general mindset of the people on the site too.Well it doesn't work for everyone. I just found that my previous mindset didn't leave me being successful with people though it could work for others.